A more intimate tension exists around dating and feminism. Some cisgender lesbians have debated the inclusion of trans women (whom they see as male-socialized) in "lesbian-only" events. While many lesbian spaces have become fiercely trans-inclusive, the debate (often amplified by TERF groups) has created rift. The trans community’s response has been a powerful reminder: the strength of LGBTQ culture is not in homogeneity, but in embracing difference. A trans lesbian is no less a lesbian than a cis one.
LGBTQ culture, at its best, provides a philosophical home for those who reject cisnormativity (the assumption that one’s gender matches their sex assigned at birth). The culture’s celebration of "coming out," authenticity, and chosen family resonates acutely with transgender individuals, who often undergo a second—or even third—coming out process as they transition. shemale and girl tube